Now that we know what stress is, let’s talk about some general strategies that we can use to manage it. This afternoon, we’ll look at some more specific factors.
These three factors impact our ability to manage stress:
- Personality
- Nature of organization
- Quality of support
Which of these three can we influence?
Personality
It’s true that we can’t change our personality, although we certainly have influence over ourselves and we can make some small changes by making different choices. For example, if we are very impatient with other people, we can learn to be a little more patient with them. Impatient people can alienate others, and they run the risk of having very small social circles. Learning some tactics to curb our impatience could improve our lives tremendously.
Nature of Organization
We can’t change the organization we work for, either, unless we own it, but we can influence the mood and atmosphere there. If the stress is unbearable and we cannot exert the influence we’d like, we can also change jobs. That is a drastic measure to be sure. However, assess what makes your workplace such a toxic environment. Is it the work or is it the people? Can the stress be partly attributed to your reaction to what is happening? If your workplace is truly too demanding, then save yourself and find another place to work.
However, if you are stressed out because nobody has ever told you what is expected of you, then talk to your supervisor about what they expect of you. If you feel like you need more training to do your job, ask for training. Perhaps you can find a mentor, or a buddy, or perhaps your company will send you to external training. You won’t know if you do not ask.
Quality of Support
One thing we can always change is the nature of the supportive relationships we have. This can be done in very strategic ways, even though they may require that you function outside your comfort zone.
- We can develop relationships at work, socially, and at home.
- We can reach out more often to both friends and family.
- We can strengthen relationships. To do this, we can ask for and offer help.
- Keep in mind that relationships are reciprocal so be a better friend or supporter yourself, and develop a wider circle of support.